Well the dictionary defines wellbeing as
The state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy.
The Danish call this Hygge.
I think that is a pretty good definition. Wellbeing comes from inside you, it is about being mentally and physically fit and healthy. It’s about being you in all your glory. It’s subjective. Mostly we all agree about what makes us feel good but I do wonder whether most of us will ever consider wellbeing as a goal or whether we consider it to be slightly selfish.
From my perspective I would also like to state what wellbeing isn’t. It’s not about being perfect, the fittest, the prettiest or the slimmest, it’s not about getting things right every day, it’s not about being the most successful in what we do. We are all human and we are all the sum of our experiences, it’s not about shutting those experiences out but accepting and developing ourselves in spite of and because of them. Here are some of the things that I try to do daily. There are days I don’t quite hit the spot, a continuous work in progress.
Accepting ourselves for who we are is not the same as resigning yourself to a particular fate. We all have a past, a history and some of which may make us unhappy, we may regret what happened or how we dealt with something. You can’t change it, you can learn from it and develop. Forgive yourself and move on. Letting go of the past and focusing on what you can control, is empowering and life changing.
Consider who you hang about with
Who do you hang about with? This is as important to your wellbeing as accepting yourself. Accepting yourself is of no use if you allow others’ to bring you back down.
Ask yourself these questions
Celebrate your strengths
I’m not talking about whether you are good a maths or high jump here, but what hardships or crisis have you overcome and grown from? How did you do it? What goals have you achieved? Who have you helped, how do you help people daily? Write them down and read and add to the list frequently. Write it all down, don’t discount anything however small.
Set an intention to destroy self-loathing
By setting an intention to shift from self-loathing to self-acceptance will start a chain reaction away from the negative and towards a world of tolerance, trust and love.
Self-loathing does not lead to a satisfying life for you or those that love you. It taints everything.
Many of the dreams we had when we were young, have not happened. They didn’t happen for a whole host of reasons. Reconciling what we wanted our reality to be and where it actually is can be difficult. We live in a world where happiness is viewed from perfection, success, money and celebrity and not getting there yourself means failure, I would like to turn that on its head completely.
All we can be is the best we can be
I like to think that we become happier because things haven’t always gone our way. Shit happens in life, whether we create it or it blindsides us on a cold Thursday. Our happiness and wellbeing comes from how we handle that and move forward, what we have learnt and how we ultimately rebuild.